The Main Issues of March 2008.

Thur 221009

Hi...

For reference, now & in the future, below is a copy of the 3 Main Issues that arose on that fateful day in March 2008, a copy of which had been sent to that "S" via courier days before my Bday recently. This paper was prepared in anticipation of that "S"'s possible & hoped for return to Lot 10 but which never materialised... even after more than 19 months...

THE MAIN ISSUES

How you had disrespected your own father…the 3 MAIN points…

1. Both my children had been told that Lot 10 would be their home & that they could come back anytime AS LONG AS they feel that it is THEIR HOME & that we are THEIR PARENTS!
Moreover, there is a very simple rule or guideline as you may call it, namely :
Come Happy, Stay Happy & Leave Happy…

Now if you were to recollect correctly, that was what your father was reminding you of when you blew your top and threatened him by saying that :
“if you say another word, I’m leaving immediately!” Correct?

Now, what right have you to do that when you were the one who had broken that simple rule of visiting Lot 10 (a very rare visit, I might add…) and so threaten your very own father in his own home?

Your father is still of sound mind & physical capability. Now, if you can do that when he is so, what is going to be the scenario when he is not so? YOU tell him…

2. Your response to your father that HE owes you MORE…

Now, how in the world can a father owe a son more? Esp when this father had a long list of how he had taken care of his son, supported him morally, emotionally & financially throughout this son’s life? Even through his marriage & even after he had a son? Your father will list out (search your memory & if need be, your father will help you remember…) ALL that he had done…way out of his way…so much more than many other fathers would ever do!

So, please help your father to understand HOW your father could ever OWE YOU MORE…

3. You pointed your finger so angrily at your father even before you left soon after…while saying, “Remember, you are the one who started it…”

Now, you had continued to insist (even at a later time) that your father started the whole incident…and even that if it was related to the phone calls you’d made to him at the chicken rice shop, you were even more sure that your father was the one who started it!

Now, on your father’s side, there’s no one to bear witness to what had happened during the 2 calls you made. I told your mother & your sister about the calls and with the 2 of them & God, as my 3rd witness, I remember trying to stop you from leaving before we could reach home…without seeing us! I even asked you how far Jln Telok Wanjah is from Lot 10 and reminded you how much time only is needed to reach Lot 10…remember?

By so doing, am I the one who started the incident?

Frankly, when you told your father you’d have to take your family for lunch first, did you even think of asking if your parents had lunch yet? Or did you expect them to skip lunch while you & your family had lunch?

So how could you be so angry at your father when he had to stop to buy lunch for your mother & sister’s family who were also visitors to Lot 10? Remember how impatient you were? And how you said you were going to leave even without seeing us at all but only come at another future date? When would that be…when you hardly ever come to visit your parents?

When a son, who hardly ever comes to visit his parents, finally could visit and was trying to leave without even seeing his parents in spite of the father trying to stop him from doing so…
Now, was that son adhering to the pre-mentioned guideline of coming home happy to Lot 10?
And, if the father’s attempt, to remind him of his wrong in that line of action, gave that son the right to tell his own father to literally “SHUT UP” in his own home, then that person is NO longer the son we knew nor had…

As such, this incident is no simple matter…no simple quarrel…no simple misunderstanding…it is a major DISRESPECT issue of a son to his own father in the father’s own home!

NB. This is only a summarized version of the details of this HUGE issue.