An SOS...

Mon 28 Dec 2009

Yup, an SOS call was received yesterday ie 271209 just after our late breakfast...from our daughter EL. KL's grandmother (her "lai mah" ) in Taiping was too sick to take care of her grandaughter, her "lai soon". And my daughter & her hubby had no alternative plan at hand in place for such an emergency....

And so it was...these 2 ole inmates of Lot 10 had to drop everything, put on hold their own lives and make preparations to leave Lot 10 unattended for a few days. And yup, to these 2 ole inmates, it was gonna be a hectic tiring few days ahead...with a hyperactive kid with special needs on our hands!

Taking care of kids full time has never been, nor was or is, our vision of what retirement & our golden years should be filled with...knowing fully well our very own strengths, limitations, weaknesses & health problems. However, it was the opposite view of the "lai mah", namely the grandmother in Taiping. Only God knows her true reasons, considering her age & health conditions. Her inability to care is too obvious to all who know about her.

And frankly speaking, it has been a truly uphill task for her and a pitiful journey for the young child, who has since been diagnosed as being a case of (luckily)mild autism. As is, KL is very stuck to her mom now. Sorry but regretfully details of problems cannot be revealed here in this public Blog but suffice to say, we feel very sad for both mother & child. Unfortunately, we also cannot do much to help, considering our physical, mental, emotional & health limitations.

Both my children could not answer my question when I asked them..."If we take care of your kid(s) and should anything happen to any one of us, can you take care of us?"
Yup, that's reality...like a hard slap in the face...like it or not. Hurts you where it matters most but sadly true. Believe it!

Like me believe & had told my daughter so...it's KL's life...her fate...her destiny. If KL's a survivor & destined to be a success story, then she will somehow be ok & even turn out to be successful in her own chosen career. One person can only do so much...nothing more than what is humanly possible.

In view of prevailing conditions, wouldn't you agree that it's about time that my daughter & her hubby to seriously sit down to discuss ways to find a workable & satisfactory solution for the care of their daughter? IMHO, I do NOT think that grandmother can continue to look after KL for very much longer. Neither can we remain on call to rush down with a 2-hour plus drive in an ole junk each time she falls sick? Can we remain perpectually healthy while the other can fall sick? You tell me...

Well, that's the gist of it. Our max help rating is a max of 3 days...which is the max of max! Have to face reality. Because if anything were to befall these 2 ole inmates, it is without doubt that these 2 ole inmates would be on their own on a downhill trip till their suffering is terminated through the kindness & compassion of God.

As is, both these ole inmates have as yet to really & truly find peace & happiness in the almost 10 years of retirement. Nothing but hurt, followed by more hurt...disappointment by more disappointment, etc., etc. Are we destined to suffer so? I sincerely hope that God is all compassionate & will bless us...

My recent wish for Peace & Happiness to end these last few days of 2009 has also been disrupted and unfulfilled...as the situation is now.

If as planned, by the time we return to Lot 10, it'll be New Year's eve ie 31 Dec 2009...less than a day before we welcome in the New Year of 2010.

So my wish now has to change to one of wishing for 2010 to be a year of Peace & Happiness, with reasonably good health for both ole inmates of Lot 10! And that finally, me & my other half of 40+ years would be able to truly walk together, hand in hand, of one heart till one has to leave the other behind...

Best wishes for a very Happy New Year 2010 to all visitors to my humble Blog!!