Life as is...

Fri 24th April 2009

Life as is...

Yup, that's the newly-updated & more appropriate description of the aim & function of this Blog. I'd never really thought about it all this while but today, somehow, the previous description "Friends for Life" doesn't seem appropriate anymore. Furthermore, it does not portray what I've been writing about all this while.

As we all know, Life is a very complicated inter-twinning of numerous facets of what life really is. Frankly, can anyone honestly tell me what Life is all about? Why is each & everyone of us here...today? Is there any one answer? LIfe is as mysterious as how we came to be...can you remember when you were born? Or why you were born here? Not there? Why to this family and not to that family? A myriad of questions...but no real answers...correct?

One of my nieces just recently had a multitude of problems while trying to care for her father and in her relationship with her siblings. She wrote this in an sms... Quote :

5 siblings...they are like the 5 different fingers of our hand...of 5 different lengths.

Yup, it's true, isn't it? One can have 5 siblings or 5 children but each & every one is different! And probably in different aspects, too. Even twins have their differences. Agreed?

And yup, no one can choose one's siblings. Similarly, one also cannot choose one's children nor can one choose one's parents.

So what can one do under such circumstances? Understand, tolerate, accept and adapt to one another in the best possible way. And hopefully, everyone in the group also puts in similar efforts. Then & only then can Life as is, go on peacefully & happily. Agreed?

However, if one of the so-called 7 "deadly sins" come into play... especially that of "Jealousy"...then Life would certainly take a turn for the worse!

However, too...if one has the IQ to realise that in any family, there is only a father, a mother and children of the two parents. And among the children, there is only brothers & sisters. Not I...not you...if you get what I mean. For only then can a family be a family. Not outsiders...nor strangers to one another. But all belonging to the same family...inclusive of those "married" into the family. Frankly, that's how a family tree can grow larger & stronger. Remember the evergreen proverb? Unity is Strength? You do? Good for you...

And then there is also the "Happiness shared is Happiness multiplied". And yup, similarly, there is "Burden shouldered that is shared is Burden divided" and thus is much lighter load to bear. True? Unfortunately, there are many among us who might have forgotten them and by so doing, have reduced the happiness that could have been shared nor have they lightened the load that others in the family have to bear. In a way, those are the selfish ones among us...like a branch broken off from the parent tree ie as if they were never part of the tree at all! Wonder how that branch came into being in the first place...

Well, sincerely hope the above provides an insight into that small horror of horrors - a situation that makes Life so unpleasant & frustrating for all concerned. Acceptance of what Life as is, is then the only way out..the only light at the end of Life's tunnel. Denial can only lead to more pain & sorrow, with no happiness in sight.

I am indeed happy to note that my Life as is, is now so much more pleasant...and happier...without hoping for what Life is not...but with acceptance of Life as is...